FINE is a 4-Letter Word Lori Saitz

Imagine you start with a sense of purpose, aligned with your goals, accustomed to your family supporting you in living your authentic life, and successfully practicing the art of the possible.
Then, all of a sudden, it gets taken away.
Stephany Ann was raised in a supportive family environment that embraced individuality and encouraged her to pursue her passions. When she was 18, her mother released her to do what she intended to do.
For five years, she lived the nomad life, backpacking worldwide. Then she returned to the United States for college but missed the application deadlines.
Rather than get discouraged she said to herself, “Why don’t we just sit down and talk with Admissions and tell them why I need to go there and why they need to give me a full ride?”
They accepted her and gave her a full ride – the art of the possible!
Stephany finished college, entered law school, and met the man who would become her first husband.
Everything seemed fine – but Fine is a 4-Letter Word.
Stephany found out she had married a narcissist who gave her an ultimatum to either give up her dreams and goals and do as he wished, or he would leave.
She acquiesced – and this is where her problems began.
In a moment, when you meet Stephany, you’ll discover her journey through her first marriage, her divorce and subsequent custody battle, and then her second marriage to another man who was remarkably similar to the first.
Along the way, she went blind – as in literally, lost her vision.
How did she go from such a promising start of being in command of her destiny to finding herself at the mercy of the whims and machinations of narcissistic men to the point she lost her identity and sense of self?
How did she get her vision back? (Yes, her eyes work now.)
What lessons were her husbands teaching her, in their own way?
You hear a lot about narcissism – the love-bombing, the idealization phase, the transition to constantly adapting yourself to anticipate the abrupt personality shifts of a man who claimed he never had an affair, while he was living with another woman.
Now, you’re going to experience the journey in a way you’ve never seen before.
Stephany Ann’s hype song is "Unstoppable" by Sia.
Resources:
Stephany Ann’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephany-ann-369a01293Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100092716308108
Invitation from Lori:
If, like Stephany Ann, you so completely lose your identity that it feels like you’ve gone blind, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide can restore your vision of your life’s purpose.
Once you read it, you’ll
✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.
✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.
✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.
It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. It could show you the answers to questions you haven’t known to ask because, up until now, you couldn’t see them.
When you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to be open and honest with yourself so you can make things better.
Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.
Now let’s go chat with...

When you go out to find yourself, the journey can take you places you didn’t imagine you’d ever go.
Maybe it will take you to a different town, or even a different country.
But once you get there, it’s possible you’ll discover you really need to go somewhere else. Kind of like in the book The Alchemist.
Matthew Brackett felt the calling to go into seminary life from an early age, and it seemed to align with the values he was raised with.
Growing up as the 10th of 13 children, he was fortunate that his father made enough money to cover the expenses, even if there weren’t a lot of luxuries, and to afford a house that had five bathrooms.
As a child, Matthew was exposed to the core values of generosity and helping others, which was natural in such a large family in a house that also included other people who stayed with the Bracketts if they were down on their luck. Service, generosity, helping others, and sacrifice. There was also the vision of the transcendental, the idea that you’re a small piece of a bigger picture.
Combining all this with Matthew’s need to live beyond the small town where he grew up, joining the priesthood seemed a natural next step as it took him all around the world serving thousands of people. First, he studied for 10 years, then served as a priest for 20 years, including as a chaplain in the United States Navy and Marine Corps.
Everything seemed fine – but Fine is a 4-Letter Word.
The problem was that while his life’s work aligned with his values of generosity and service, he found that he was not serving himself.
Ultimately, he decided to take a year off. During that year, he spent four months as an inpatient learning about himself, before returning to his hometown and living with his dad while working menial jobs and collecting new experiences.
Today, he coaches with individuals, couples, companies, and organizations of all sizes, whose leaders sometimes don’t quite know what to make of a former priest. Is he going to force his beliefs on them? Does his background give him the ability to see different points of view? Does he have the experience?
Matthew is now three years into his new journey, and once again he is finding his niche as a small piece of a new bigger picture.
Matthew’s hype song is “Back in Black” by AC/DC.
Resources:
Matthew Brackett’s website: https://brackettalliance.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-brackett/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matthew.brackett.12 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthewbrackett_official/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MatthewBrackett_Official
Invitation from Lori:
If, like Matthew, you get to where you set out to go and then discover that’s not where you belong, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide can point you down your next path.
Once you read it, you’ll
✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.
✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.
✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.
It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through....

What is our cultural obsession with busyness? How many businesspeople do you know who wear their exhaustion as a badge of honor?
Kris Ward was raised with values she eventually learned she had to overcome – the values of moving fast, getting a lot of stuff done, and working hard. Hard work equals success.
But is any of this true?
Kris grew up, got married, and started a business. She was determined to succeed and put in a lot of long, hard hours. Her marriage seemed happy, her business seemed to be growing, and all that hard work seemed to be paying off. Everything seemed fine.
But Fine is a 4-Letter Word, as Kris found out about two years into her entrepreneurial journey when her husband said, “You're starting to lose some of your charm.”
After hearing this, Kris realized she was fatigued and stretched thin most of the time. She read studies conducted by Harvard professors that showed how working hard makes you less productive - optimal human productivity caps at about six hours per day - but thought she could outrun these studies. They didn’t apply to her because SHE was different.
Eventually, and you’ll hear how, she was able to dramatically reduce her workday from sixteen hours to six, and discovered she was more productive, more fulfilled, and more successful than ever before.
In fact, when her husband was diagnosed with colon cancer, she stepped away from her business for almost two years, and nobody – not her clients, not her local business community – even noticed she’d dropped out for a while!
Her business was going so well that during her husband’s final months, people would ask how she was holding up and she’s say “I’m fine” – that 4-letter word – and for Kris, this was a subtle downgrade to what she usually said.
Today, as creator of Win The Hour, Win The Day, she works with entrepreneurs who think everything’s going to be “fine” if they just work harder at the hustle and grind. She emphasizes the importance of energy management over mere time management, advocating for strategic delegation and prioritization that supports both personal well-being and professional success.
What’s her secret?
You’re about to find out, so get your pad and pen ready.
Kris’ hype song is the “Rocky” theme song – “Gonna Fly Now” by Bill Conti.
Resources:
Kris Ward’s website: https://winthehourwintheday.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kriswardgetoutofyourownway/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/krisward.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kriswardlive/ X (formerly Twitter): https://twitter.com/krisward Take the Power Personality Quiz, get Kris Ward’s courses, and download her audiobook “Win The Hour, Win The Day” at https://www.freegiftfromkris.com.
Invitation from Lori:
If, like Kris, you discover that the values of working hard and going fast do NOT equal success the way you’d hoped or expected, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is your Great Reset.
Once you read it, you’ll
✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.
✅ Learn how...

Many of our listeners have been asking for an update on my life as a nomad.
For those of you who don't know, in October 2023 I gave up my apartment, put most of my belongings into a 5x10 storage unit in North Virginia, and since then have been traveling the country housesitting cats (and some dogs too) through a program called Trusted House Sitters.
Over the past six months, I've visited places like West Virginia, Virginia, Kentucky, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, and Florida, and posted updates on social media as often as I can.
Lately, I've been getting a lot of questions about my adventures housesitting cats and dogs, the road trips, my experiences, and some of the fascinating people I've been fortunate to meet.
When you tune in now for this special episode, you'll hear about my random and fun discoveries, some of the deeper learnings I've experienced, the challenges I've faced and overcome along the way, and how you can apply my takeaways to your own situation, whether you're a nomad or you're staying put.
This episode includes “The Abundance Prayer” from Tosha Silver's book, It's Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance.
Resources:
My Website: https://ZenRabbit.com/The F*ck Being Fine Experience: https://zenrabbit.com/f-being-fine-program/ LinkedIn: https://zenrabbit.com/linkedin/ Facebook: https://zenrabbit.com/facebook/ Instagram: https://zenrabbit.com/instagram/
Invitation from Lori:
If, like me, you find yourself ready to hit the road and see what life has to offer that, up until now, you may not have known existed, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is your roadmap.
Once you read it, you’ll
✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.
✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.
✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.
It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. If you find yourself feeling stuck or stagnant, this could be the catalyst you need to find what you truly need to make this an amazing life – even if you aren’t planning to put your stuff in storage and take to the open road.
When you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to look beyond where you are now so you can get to where you are destined to go.
Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.
Now let’s hit the road. I’ve got the car loaded up and some cats waiting at my next gig, come with me and let’s have some fun!

Leaving things better than you found them and being honest and open are good traits to have and will likely serve you well.
The former makes the world, or your little part of it, better because you were part of it, while the latter both shows respect and earns you respect.
Stephanie O’Brien was raised with these values. Although her life took an interesting path, they became her true north and steered her through challenges, including a business relationship that ended due to misaligned values.
Growing up, she didn’t fit in well with a lot of classmates, which led her to an early interest in creating fiction stories and writing novels.
Stephanie wrote her first novel when she was 12. Then she destroyed it before anyone other than her mother could see it, even though her mother warned her not to do that. Throughout her childhood, she explored a variety of hobbies – reading voraciously, writing fiction, playing the piano, and more.
After her family took a Robert Kiyosaki real estate course, she discovered property management was not her thing, in part because – how crazy is this?! – tenants were stealing the doors!
Then Stephanie’s mother took a course on coaching, which led Stephanie to launch a coaching business for entrepreneurs. It was a natural and welcome transition, getting to work with people who aligned with her values of leaving things better than they found them instead of stealing doors from their landlords.
She was still writing fiction novels, she had her coaching business, and her entrepreneurial path was picking up, so everything seemed fine.
But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.
Stephanie came to feel like she was stuck in a prison, resentful of her business.
The question she had to answer was who was guarding the door?
The answer turned out to be one many creative, multi-passionate entrepreneurs have to discover eventually.
Her values proved to be her liberation – and yours, too, as you’re about to hear.
Stephanie’s hype song is “Armeria no Torikago”.
Resources:
Stephanie O’Brien’s website: https://www.coachclientconnection.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-obrien-program-design/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanieOBrienCoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanieobriencoaching/ Get Stephanie’s Masterclass, “Course Creation Made Easy: Beat the Blank Screen, and Get Your Coaching Program Created Fast!” - https://www.coachclientconnection.com/Course-Creation-Made-Easy-Masterclass/
Invitation from Lori:
If, like Stephanie, you find yourself in a prison of your own making, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is the golden key to your freedom.
Once you read it, you’ll
✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.
✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.
✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.
It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. Especially when you find yourself caught between what you know to be your passion and what...

This week’s guest, Zack Lemear, is a marketing and branding strategist who, on the surface, looks and sounds pretty much like any entrepreneur consultant.
It makes sense he’s successful helping businesses with marketing and branding since his ticket in the birth lottery won him a blank slate to create and brand himself.
Here on Fine is a 4-Letter Word, you may know my first question of every guest is to ask them what values they were raised with as they were growing up.
Zack is probably the first guest to ever say he wasn’t raised with any values at all.
Rather, he was surrounded by a dysfunctional family dynamic involving poverty, drug addiction, abuse, and systemic cycles repeated by generations of his family via their life choices.
His mother was a con artist, from whom he learned sales skills, and who was constantly getting evicted. In one case, they got kicked out of an apartment and moved to another unit literally one floor above. How does that work?
Because he moved around so much, he didn’t have the opportunity to keep friends long enough for them to have much influence on him.
Attempting to trace his family lineage, he found 21 people with the last name Lemear, all of whom he knew somehow, but none he felt he could accurately organize into a family tree because the name had been handed around and relatives had had children without getting married.
So, with no learned values or traceable family tree, he had an unprecedented opportunity to brand and create himself in any way he wanted, as well as break the systemic toxic family patterns.
How did he do it?
What enabled him to be the first in his family to finish high school, much less go to college?
How did it influence his choices, including passing up a free ride to a state university to accept admission to an out-of-state school he couldn’t afford?
What values has he instilled in his own children and how has he shielded them from the family patterns that still try to influence them?
Zack’s hype song is "Something from Nothing" by the Foo Fighters.
Resources:
Zack Lemear’s website: https://www.pivotcreative.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zacharylemear/
Invitation from Lori:
If, like Zack, you find yourself looking at your situation and seeing an opportunity to clear the slate and innovate yourself, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.
Once you read it, you’ll
✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.
✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.
✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.
It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. Especially if it feels like you’re creating something from less than nothing, this guide provides a framework to go about it in a systematic way that honors who you authentically are and, like Zack, design (or redesign) yourself.
So, when you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to blaze your own trail and allow your curiosity to take you on a new quest!
Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.
Now, let’s meet Zack. I bet within the next few minutes, you’ll be amazed at how little you know about yourself - and how much you may be about to learn!