45 min

How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Ministry - Lysa TerKeurst - 29 FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye - Healthy Leadership for Life and Ministry

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As ministers we have a heart to encourage, to bless, and to engage with people relationally. However, if we're not careful, we can find ourselves emotionally drained and mentally fatigued if we are not setting healthy boundaries, but the question is, how do we set good boundaries and continue to serve those around us? In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Lysa TerKeurst. Lysa is the president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, has written 25 books, including her latest Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. Together, Lysa and Jason discuss how setting good boundaries actually helps us live more fully into the calling that God has on our lives to serve and to minister.
Dig deeper into this conversation: Find the free Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide, all resource links, and more at http://PastorServe.org/network

Some key takeaways from this conversation:

Lysa TerKeurst on healthy people and healthy boundaries: "Healthy people like healthy boundaries. They're not threatened by them and they're not put off by them. They accept them because they recognize their own limitations, and therefore they can respect your limitations.”

Lysa TerKeurst on the reality of people-pleasing: " I used to say, I struggle with people-pleasing, but the reality is, I'm not struggling because I'm trying to keep other people happy. I'm struggling because I fear if I don't keep them happy, then I will lose something that they are giving me. And where the Lord really challenged me is that I will always desperately want to get from another person what I fear I will never get from God."

Lysa TerKeurst on assessing our emotional health as ministry leaders: "Sometimes the people we're doing ministry for recognize their blindness, and we don't. And so we have to be responsible to get some professional insight about our own health as well. And this does not mean that you're a bad leader, it doesn't mean that you're less of a Christian. But some of the most, I guess, unhealthy situations that I've ever experienced a ministry leader being in is when they're very high on spiritual health, but very low on their emotional health.... You can teach people spiritual principles, but if your emotional health isn't where it needs to be, you cannot possibly model how to live that out in healthy ways."
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Looking to dig more deeply
Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.

Visit http://PastorServe.org/network to find the Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide. Our team pulls key insights and quotes from every conversation with our guests. We also create engaging questions for you and your team to consider and process, providing space for you to reflect on how each episode's topic relates to your unique church context. Use these questions in your staff meetings, or other settings, to guide your conversation as you invest in the growth of your ministry leaders.
Love well, live well, & lead well
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As ministers we have a heart to encourage, to bless, and to engage with people relationally. However, if we're not careful, we can find ourselves emotionally drained and mentally fatigued if we are not setting healthy boundaries, but the question is, how do we set good boundaries and continue to serve those around us? In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Lysa TerKeurst. Lysa is the president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, has written 25 books, including her latest Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. Together, Lysa and Jason discuss how setting good boundaries actually helps us live more fully into the calling that God has on our lives to serve and to minister.
Dig deeper into this conversation: Find the free Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide, all resource links, and more at http://PastorServe.org/network

Some key takeaways from this conversation:

Lysa TerKeurst on healthy people and healthy boundaries: "Healthy people like healthy boundaries. They're not threatened by them and they're not put off by them. They accept them because they recognize their own limitations, and therefore they can respect your limitations.”

Lysa TerKeurst on the reality of people-pleasing: " I used to say, I struggle with people-pleasing, but the reality is, I'm not struggling because I'm trying to keep other people happy. I'm struggling because I fear if I don't keep them happy, then I will lose something that they are giving me. And where the Lord really challenged me is that I will always desperately want to get from another person what I fear I will never get from God."

Lysa TerKeurst on assessing our emotional health as ministry leaders: "Sometimes the people we're doing ministry for recognize their blindness, and we don't. And so we have to be responsible to get some professional insight about our own health as well. And this does not mean that you're a bad leader, it doesn't mean that you're less of a Christian. But some of the most, I guess, unhealthy situations that I've ever experienced a ministry leader being in is when they're very high on spiritual health, but very low on their emotional health.... You can teach people spiritual principles, but if your emotional health isn't where it needs to be, you cannot possibly model how to live that out in healthy ways."
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Looking to dig more deeply
Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.

Visit http://PastorServe.org/network to find the Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide. Our team pulls key insights and quotes from every conversation with our guests. We also create engaging questions for you and your team to consider and process, providing space for you to reflect on how each episode's topic relates to your unique church context. Use these questions in your staff meetings, or other settings, to guide your conversation as you invest in the growth of your ministry leaders.
Love well, live well, & lead well
Complimentary Coaching Session for Pastors http://PastorServe.org/freesession
Follow PastorServe LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook

Connect with Jason Daye LinkedIn | Instagram...

45 min