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How to Address Conflict Among Leaders Before it Gets Toxic - Chris Sonksen - 17 FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye - Healthy Leadership for Life and Ministry
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As pastors and ministry leaders we all know that, at times, disunity, misalignment, and conflict can ripple beneath the surface of our leadership teams, whether it's paid staff, church board members, elders, or key volunteers. In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Chris Sonksen, pastor, author, and ministry coach, as they look at practical ways to address these subtle conflicts before they grow, and become toxic and painful for your church and your ministries.
Dig deeper into this conversation: Find the free Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide, all resource links, and more at http://PastorServe.org/network
Some key takeaways from this conversation:
Chris Sonksen on leadership insecurity: "Insecurity shows up when we are secretly threatened by other people's talent or we're secretly happy when other people fail. That's a dangerous place to be."
Chris Sonksen on where disunity usually is found in the church: "We've got to fight to be healthy, but we also need to realize that most of the time, it is not seven or eight layers deep into the church where the problem will be found. It's usually in that top one or two tier of leadership, where there is some toxic behavior where disunity start showing up, and ultimately where the problems occur.”
Chris Sonksen on artificial harmony: "Artificial harmony is when we know there's a little bit of an issue between that staff member and that leader, that leader and that volunteer, or the pastor and that board member, whatever the combination is… We know that there's a little bit of a problem, but we don't ever deal with it."
Chris Sonksen on addressing subtle conflict before it grows: "In the conversation you have, the strength is in your straightforwardness, but it's brought in a gentle way. 'I've been noticing something. This is what I'm seeing...can you speak into it?' You're direct. But you're gentle. It's a gentle strength. You're not hem-hawing, it's a gentle strength.”
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Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.
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Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.
Visit http://PastorServe.org/network to find the Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide. Our team pulls key insights and quotes from every conversation with our guests. We also create engaging questions for you and your team to consider and process, providing space for you to reflect on how each episode's topic relates to your unique church context. Use these questions in your staff meetings, or other settings, to guide your conversation as you invest in the growth of your ministry leaders.
Love well, live well, & lead well
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As pastors and ministry leaders we all know that, at times, disunity, misalignment, and conflict can ripple beneath the surface of our leadership teams, whether it's paid staff, church board members, elders, or key volunteers. In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Chris Sonksen, pastor, author, and ministry coach, as they look at practical ways to address these subtle conflicts before they grow, and become toxic and painful for your church and your ministries.
Dig deeper into this conversation: Find the free Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide, all resource links, and more at http://PastorServe.org/network
Some key takeaways from this conversation:
Chris Sonksen on leadership insecurity: "Insecurity shows up when we are secretly threatened by other people's talent or we're secretly happy when other people fail. That's a dangerous place to be."
Chris Sonksen on where disunity usually is found in the church: "We've got to fight to be healthy, but we also need to realize that most of the time, it is not seven or eight layers deep into the church where the problem will be found. It's usually in that top one or two tier of leadership, where there is some toxic behavior where disunity start showing up, and ultimately where the problems occur.”
Chris Sonksen on artificial harmony: "Artificial harmony is when we know there's a little bit of an issue between that staff member and that leader, that leader and that volunteer, or the pastor and that board member, whatever the combination is… We know that there's a little bit of a problem, but we don't ever deal with it."
Chris Sonksen on addressing subtle conflict before it grows: "In the conversation you have, the strength is in your straightforwardness, but it's brought in a gentle way. 'I've been noticing something. This is what I'm seeing...can you speak into it?' You're direct. But you're gentle. It's a gentle strength. You're not hem-hawing, it's a gentle strength.”
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Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.
Visit
Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.
Visit http://PastorServe.org/network to find the Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide. Our team pulls key insights and quotes from every conversation with our guests. We also create engaging questions for you and your team to consider and process, providing space for you to reflect on how each episode's topic relates to your unique church context. Use these questions in your staff meetings, or other settings, to guide your conversation as you invest in the growth of your ministry leaders.
Love well, live well, & lead well
Complimentary Coaching Session for Pastors http://PastorServe.org/freesession
Follow PastorServe LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Connect with Jason Daye LinkedIn | Instagram...
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