42 min
We All Crave Control: Avoiding Anxiety & Pastor Burnout - Sharon Hodde Miller - 19 FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye FrontStage BackStage with Jason Daye - Healthy Leadership for Life and Ministry
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As ministry leaders, most of us aren't power hungry, over-controlling pastors or making the latest news headlines. But as humans, all of us can gravitate toward a desire to control. And as pastors, we often want to control how others perceive us, our ministries, and even our families. In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon is a teaching pastor who, along with her husband, planted Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina. Sharon has also written a number of books, including her latest, The Cost of Control. Today, they discuss our cravings for control, and look at healthy ways to avoid anxiety, broken relationships, and even pastor burnout.
Dig deeper into this conversation: Find the free Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide, all resource links, and more at http://PastorServe.org/network
Some key takeaways from this conversation:
Sharon Hodde Miller on not placing more on yourself as a pastor than Jesus does: "We're not responsible for the outcome. Whatever happens with our people, whatever happens with our church, we are to be faithful stewards, and cast out that seed, but we cannot bring the growth."
Sharon Hodde Miller on recognizing hidden sin in your life: "If you are unwilling to share openly with someone who does not have the power to fire you.... If you are unwilling to share what is going on truthfully, with that person, I would say that is a red flag that this has entered into the territory of hiding instead of privacy”
Sharon Hodde Miller on the discouragement of people in your church thinking badly of you: "That is so painful, when you have earnestly and humbly and thoughtfully, and prayerfully, made these decisions, to the best of your ability, knowing that not everyone is going to agree and then to be accused of being all the things that people have probably been called, and by people that you trusted. You know, by people that you thought you were going to be doing this forever, you thought you were on mission together, you thought you understood the gospel the same way, you thought you were both submitting yourselves to God's Word, and then to suddenly be accused of abandoning Christ or whatever."
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Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church le
Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.
Visit http://PastorServe.org/network to find the Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide. Our team pulls key insights and quotes from every conversation with our guests. We also create engaging questions for you and your team to consider and process, providing space for you to reflect on how each episode's topic relates to your unique church context. Use these questions in your staff meetings, or other settings, to guide your conversation as you invest in the growth of your ministry leaders.
Love well, live well, & lead well
Complimentary Coaching Session for Pastors http://PastorServe.org/freesession
Follow PastorServe LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Connect with Jason Daye LinkedIn | Instagram...
As ministry leaders, most of us aren't power hungry, over-controlling pastors or making the latest news headlines. But as humans, all of us can gravitate toward a desire to control. And as pastors, we often want to control how others perceive us, our ministries, and even our families. In this week's conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon is a teaching pastor who, along with her husband, planted Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina. Sharon has also written a number of books, including her latest, The Cost of Control. Today, they discuss our cravings for control, and look at healthy ways to avoid anxiety, broken relationships, and even pastor burnout.
Dig deeper into this conversation: Find the free Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide, all resource links, and more at http://PastorServe.org/network
Some key takeaways from this conversation:
Sharon Hodde Miller on not placing more on yourself as a pastor than Jesus does: "We're not responsible for the outcome. Whatever happens with our people, whatever happens with our church, we are to be faithful stewards, and cast out that seed, but we cannot bring the growth."
Sharon Hodde Miller on recognizing hidden sin in your life: "If you are unwilling to share openly with someone who does not have the power to fire you.... If you are unwilling to share what is going on truthfully, with that person, I would say that is a red flag that this has entered into the territory of hiding instead of privacy”
Sharon Hodde Miller on the discouragement of people in your church thinking badly of you: "That is so painful, when you have earnestly and humbly and thoughtfully, and prayerfully, made these decisions, to the best of your ability, knowing that not everyone is going to agree and then to be accused of being all the things that people have probably been called, and by people that you trusted. You know, by people that you thought you were going to be doing this forever, you thought you were on mission together, you thought you understood the gospel the same way, you thought you were both submitting yourselves to God's Word, and then to suddenly be accused of abandoning Christ or whatever."
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Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church le
Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? FrontStage BackStage is much more than another church leadership show, it is a complete resource to help you and your ministry leaders grow. Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed.
Visit http://PastorServe.org/network to find the Weekly Toolkit, including the Ministry Leaders Growth Guide. Our team pulls key insights and quotes from every conversation with our guests. We also create engaging questions for you and your team to consider and process, providing space for you to reflect on how each episode's topic relates to your unique church context. Use these questions in your staff meetings, or other settings, to guide your conversation as you invest in the growth of your ministry leaders.
Love well, live well, & lead well
Complimentary Coaching Session for Pastors http://PastorServe.org/freesession
Follow PastorServe LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Connect with Jason Daye LinkedIn | Instagram...
42 min