The Souloist Podcast Zohara Zofia Rotem

Today I’m answering questions asked by a teacher, a parent
and a student.

The teacher asked:  what could  I do with a parent who constantly tries to teach me what to teach in the lesson?

The parent asked :how can I  make sure that my child practices everything the teacher assigned us to do?

The student writes :I really love my cello and I love
playing it. But I don’t like 1. To practice difficult sections   2.When mum’s hovering around me with a demanding
energy.

Thank you for sending your questions. Please keep them coming.


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Today I’m in conversation with Lane Arye.

Lane Arye, Ph.D. is a senior Processwork trainer and a founding faculty member of the Process Work Institute in the USA.

Whether teaching, working in private practice, facilitating community and organizational conflicts, or learning and training alongside social justice groups, Lane partners with people to help create more inner and outer freedom and wholeness.

He helps people transform their music, creativity, and stage fright, and is the author of Unintentional Music: Releasing Your Deepest Creativity.

Lane co-led a six-year UN funded project in the Balkans that brought together Serbs, Croats, and Muslims after the war to work on ethnic tension, post-war trauma, and building sustainable community.

He has facilitated conflicts between Aboriginal Australians and European Australians, and between Dalits (so-called untouchables) and high-caste Hindus in India.

Lane is a facilitator and trainer for the Racial Justice Collaborative and is the author of “The Vicious Cycle of
White Centrality” in Dr. Kenneth V. Hardy’s The Enduring, Invisible, and Ubiquitous Centrality of Whiteness.

He lives in the San Francisco Bay Area (USA)
and loves to hang out with his wife and kids, play music, meditate, and follow the mystery.

Pronouns: he/him/hisLane's website


WE TALKED ABOUT:

· Processwork

· Dreams

· Worldwork
(“what happens in the world- happens at the kitchen table”)

· Lane’s work with racism

· Unintentional Music, Lane’s book and how he brings Processwork to music.

· How our inner process changes the way we play

· The parts of us we don’t like and the ones we’d love to have

· The box that keeps us in our identities

· The pain, fear and exhaustion in war zones, and what can be done from a Processwork point of view.

· The essence of Processwork - This is what’s happening

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“When will my son be ready to start lessons”?

this was a question asked by a mother of 4 years old.

As many  mothers are asking the same questions, I’d like to shed some light on the topic, and share with you my experience.

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Today I’m in conversation with MaryLou Roberts, a Suzuki Guitar Teacher Trainer.

(bio below)

We talked about:

· Suzuki approach in today’s world and how it is needed now more than ever

· How to keep finding new ways

· Music environment has changed

· Listening needs to be taught

· How to turn music into a habit

· Attention span

·Play the best you can, and let the sound wash over your student.

· Musical communication

· Children loved into existence

· Art isn’t in some far-off place

· The importance of community for our children

· Being with your child is one of the most important things in the Suzuki way.

· Everyone can talk, so everyone can be a Suzuki parent and student. …..and more.

· Find a way to love what you do



MaryLou’s Bio:

MaryLou Roberts is a Suzuki Teacher Trainer, who maintains
an active Suzuki Guitar program in Ann Arbor, Michigan. She travels
internationally as a Guitar Teacher Trainer for the SAA and the ESA. MaryLou is a Coordinator of the Ann Arbor Suzuki Institute of Music, and has served on the Board of Directors of the SAA and on the Guitar Foundation of America Board.  She is Chair of the International Suzuki Association Guitar Committee, guiding the process of revising the Suzuki Guitar repertoire along with her international colleagues. She holds a Master’s Degree in Guitar performance from the Cleveland Institute of Music, where she studied with John Holmquist and received the Valedictory Award and was elected to the Society of Pi Kappa Lambda. Her favorite pastimes are daily Tai Chi, walks with her spouse Brian, and just being in nature.

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Yesterday  I was talking to a  dear friend.

 She celebrated her 80th a while ago.

A wise, talented, intelligent woman. A woman that you’d feel privileged to include in your circle of friends.

 She apologised for wearing a sleeveless top.

It’s too hot, she said.

I asked why is she apologising, and she said ,she can’t show
her arms “like that”.

 She meant  flabby arms.

 It made me sad. Women of this calibre need to hide something
that has to do with their appearance because it’s not up to the public standard?

What is this standard?  I wanted to shout.

Something that looks like a young arm?

Is there an age limit or body appearance limit, that women are allowed to show in public, and hide the rest?

 And who decides what this limit is ?

 A panel of young people?

Or maybe Children?

Or elders who feel they need to apologise for looking their age ?

 Society in its best is  made of all ages.

From babies to old people.

Each one in its development stage is contributing to the whole.

Everyone is needed. Every one of us is a colour or a shade in a rainbow of human existence.

You were young once,  and then you grew into an adult and after that you grew old.

 Do you need to apologise for this?

Do you need to cover it up?

Do you need to be approved for  the way you look?

 This phenomenon of anti-ageing, what is it about?

Why are we trying to get rid of ageing?

Why are we fighting it?

We want to age without ageing.

We want to age pretending we are still young.

 Why not embracing the process of ageing?

Society will change their attitude towards old age, when elders will change their  attitude towards themselves.

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In the first stages of my grief I made a decision to experience it all; every emotion and feeling that came in the package of grief and loss.

I didn’t want to run away from it.
Something in me knew that if I ran away, this monster will catch me at some point in the future.  I knew it was unavoidable.

I sort of knew, that I’d rather experience it in real time, while it’s there, fresh… raw… cruel… fierce…uncompromising….

 So, I made a place and space for grief, for pain. for cry, for anger and disbelief.

Now, from a vintage point of 2 yrs. + 7 months I can see that among the parts that make who I am, there was a wise old woman who knew how to guide all the other parts. 

And while I was “away” crying the pain of a lost child, moaning the agony  of the maiden, wailing the woman who lost her lover, and lamented the woman who wanted to get old side by side with her  beloved, she – the wise old one – was holding me in her arms, waiting with love and permission to feel it all. As long as it takes...

She knew... She who knows.   

We are brought up to believe that life is made of right or wrong, good or bad, ugly or beautiful, black or white.

And if so – there’s grief or love, sorrow or joy.

So, in order to live “normal” life you have to “move on from grief”.

These are WRONG messages.  They have nothing to do with the real raw experience of grief.

I discovered that love and grief are not either or.

They are inseparable.

A few days ago, on our 50th anniversary day,I renewed my vow.

My vow to love with all my heart. To live my life from the heart. With the heart. And for the heart.

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