The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast Arlina Allen

Thank you for downloading the episode! If you’re new here, my name is Arlina and I’ll be your host, and if you’re a long time listener, welcome back!
 
At the time of this recording which is 4/23 - I am celebrating 30 years of continuous sobriety! It feels a little surreal to be honest, but mostly I feel deeply grateful. Grateful that I was able to stay sober with the help of so many people, grateful for my relentless curiosity about all things self-help and personal development, and all of the experiences I’ve had as a sober woman.
 
So I’m going to do something a little bit different today. 
 
Typically I interview guests about their recovery journey and ask them to share the solutions that helped them get sober, but today, I wanted to share some things that will help people just starting out, some solutions for people who are focused on staying sober, and some of the practices that I use today to address my own mental health.
 
As a disclaimer, if you are physically addicted to any substance, please consult with a medical professional. I am not a doctor, and I don’t play one on the internet. This is for educational purposes based on my own personal experiences.
 
With that out of the way…
 
First, for those who are thinking about quitting drinking. I’d like to cover some basics that will help you get started. I actually have a free guide called “How to quit drinking, 30 tips for your first 30 days” that you can download for free at soberlifeschool.com but I’ll go into a little more depth here if you are in the contemplation stage.
 
I think the first step involves coming to the conclusion if you can moderate or not. Like being 100% brutally honest with yourself. You don’t even have to tell anyone yet, but that is a question that you have to answer for yourself.
 
What I mean by moderation is, can you create a drinking plan that you can stick to? If you decide you want to drink no more than 2 glasses in an evening, and you fail, that is a sign that you cannot moderate. But what about if you can do it some of the time? I would say that if you cannot stick to it 100% of the time, you cannot moderate. 
 
Especially if you experience blackouts, vomiting, interrupted sleep, hangovers, and do or say things under the influence that create problems in relationships, work, or in your finances. 
 
If you are not sure, I suggest you run the experiment. Give yourself a plan, a time frame, and give it a shot because you need to know that you cannot moderate if you are going to practice abstinence. 
 
If you have enough evidence without having to run the experiment, then it’s time to move to the next phase which is getting prepared. I recommend you start by prepping your environment. Take out all the temptation. I don’t care if you pour it down the drain, give it away or put it in the trash, but just get it out of your house.
 
After you do that, it’s time to let people know. Keep in mind that people receive information with the same intensity and energy that you deliver it. So depending on who you tell, you can keep it light and say something like “hey, I’m focusing on my health right now and creating better habits, so I’m going to go alcohol free for 30 days and I could use your support.” Or there might be people close to you who you feel safe with to say, “I don't think I should drink anymore, and I could really use your support.” The point it to let people know so you don’t walk into a situation with friends or family who expect you to drink, and try to have that conversation then. It’s better to give people a heads up so it’s not so awkward in the moment.
 
As a side note, you might want to think about what specific support you want. It could be asking someone not to offer you a drink, or drink in front of you. It could be that you ask someone not to lecture you or tease you about it in front of others. It could be that you have a friend tha

Welcome to the podcast! In case you are new here, my name is Arlina Allen and I am the founder of Sober Life School. I have been sober since 4/23/94 (which means I will be celebrating 30 years!) In that time I have been obsessed with self-help, spirituality, psychology, and behavior change.
 
And let’s not get it twisted, I did not do it alone. In fact, I have had many many helpers along the way including mentors, sponsors, professional therapists and lots of loving friends and family.
 
As a way to say thank you to them, I try to be as helpful as I can and pass along what was given to me. That’s why I created a free guide for you with all my best tips on how to start your alcohol-free journey. It’s called “How to Quit Drinking: 30 tips for your first 30 days”. In it you will find strategies on how to avoid common mistakes, foods that will reduce cravings, how to talk about it with friends and family, what to do in social situations, and so much more!
 
So visit soberlifeschool.com, get your free copy and start creating a life you love!
 
And just a little programming note: I recently lost my podcast editor, so this episode and future episodes will be published in the raw and unedited format. I appreciate your patience and continued support!
 
Today I’ll be joined by Justin B. Long. He is an author, business owner of a successful veterinary practice, and author of The Righteous Rage of a Ten-Year-Old Boy. He shares the traumatic events in early childhood that formed his negative self-image, his journey through addiction, and the process of healing that has led to finding peace. 
 
You know, after hearing Justin’s story, I was reminded of just how painful childhood can be for some people. When I hear these stories, I often feel amazed at how they survive, and the truth is, some people don’t. In fact, Justin could have very easily become another statistic - but he didn’t. He survived. And not only did he survive, but he is thriving today!
 
That is the story of hope. 
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Justin.
 
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Welcome to the podcast! 
 
Today I’ll be joined by Barb Nangle, who is going to give an absolute masterclass on how to recover with co-occuring addictions. We’re going to talk about OA, ACA, Coda, and go over some practices for setting boundaries, building self-worth and finding your true identity. 
 
I’ll just note that Barb does more for her self-care than anyone I’ve ever met, I’m not even kidding. She’s incredible. So if you’re new to recovery, it might sound a little overwhelming, but just know that you don’t have to do everything that we talk about to start feeling better right away. Listen for the practices that pique your interest and follow your intuition.
 
Before we jump in, I just want to give you a heads up about some upcoming changes to the podcast. After 7 years of the same format, I’m going to be experimenting with solo episodes focusing on some of the basics for those who are just starting their recovery journey.
 
Also, I would like to hear from you, the listeners! What do you want to hear more of? What do you want to hear less of? Do you want more book recommendations or are there people out there that you think I should interview? Let me know!
 
Follow me on IG @arlinaallen and shoot me a DM with your suggestions. 
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Barb
 
Connect with Barb here: https://higherpowercc.com/
 
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Welcome to the podcast! 
 
Today I’ll be joined by CEO and Founder Chandler Rogers of the Relay app. He’ll be sharing his story of overcoming addiction to pornography and how it led him to create a highly successful sobriety app to help people connect anonymously.
 
We’re going to talk about how we met, and how after I heard about their project, I decided to partner with them so I could connect with you! 
 
I’m always reachable on social media, but not everyone wants to reach out that way. In fact, a lot of people either want to say anonymous or NEED to be anonymous because of work or fear of exposure, or you’re not ready to tell your family and friends or whatever… 
 
The point is that we all need a safe place to start, with support, accountability and compassion.
 
So I’ll be hosting a private group, not on social media, totally private, where you can get support from me and others just like you who want to live an alcohol and drug free life.
 
I’m going to give you some instructions but don’t worry if you can’t remember everything, I’ll put it in the show notes:
 
You can join my recovery team by signing up here: (https://joinrelay.app/odaat), answer Yes when the signup survey asks "Do you already have a group?", and input the team code ONEDAY. You'll get to try Relay for free + 20% off after the free trial, and you can stay as anonymous as you want. I'm excited to meet you soon!
 
I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Chandler, and let me know what you think!
 
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You are going to hear from Angela Pugh today, host of The Addiction Unlimited Podcast and a woman in long term sobriety. In fact she just celebrated 18 years!
 
Before we jump in, I do have a couple of resources for you. For a loooong time… like almost 8 years, I’ve only had group support for women. The good news is now there is a new podcast, called The Self-Help Junkie Podcast. It’s for seekers, dreamers, hustlers and overachievers who want to get focused, take the actions that will help them reach their goals and connect with others, just like you! 
 
We also have biweekly meetings that are open to everyone! The format of that podcast is we discuss a self-help topic, identify 3 action steps, and the following week we review what went well, what we learned and if we didn’t do the action steps, what got in the way. 
 
You can join the meetings to ask questions, share your experiences, and connect with others who love self-help as much as you do. You can find the podcast on all podcast players, and you can join the meetings by visiting patreon.com/selfhelpjunkie.
 
Today Angela and I are going to talk about getting back to basics, why she got sober, how she got sober, the evolution of the online sober space and so much more.
 
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We have a special guest today, former NBA basketball player, Chris Herren. He will be sharing his story of going from a rising star in his community, to the risks he took in active addiction. 

And just a quick note before we jump in. There are so many people I would love to invite onto the podcast that I know you’ll love. The first thing they do to see if this is a good use of their time, is look at the podcast ratings and reviews and check our IG followers. 

So if you enjoy this podcast, could I ask you to leave us a 5 star rating and a review on Apple podcasts? It’s a zero cost way to support the podcast and on a personal note, it would mean the world to me. As a community we can spread the message that recovery is possible and bring hope to people suffering, all over the world. 

I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, so without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Chris.

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Reach out to Chris here: https://chrisherren.com/