Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

  1. FEB 25

    Is Dating Harder Today & Coming On Strong

    Johnny Fernandez, life and love coach, joins Damona to answer the question: is dating really harder today? This is a hot debate and it continues as Johnny and Damona put their four decades of collective experience to work. Whether you're feeling like dating is impossible, or just wondering if you’re doing it all wrong, if you’re intrigued by masculine/feminine dynamics or not, this episode is for you! Then we have this Dear Damona question of the week: After coming on strong, communication with my match has slowed. How do I know if he’s busy or lost interest? Book your tickets to an upcoming Love Breakthrough Live at radianceandcourage.com. The direct link will be in the show notes. You can learn more about Johnny and his wife Lara at @JohnnyAndLara LAST CALL for questions for the February Dear Damona episode! Submit your audio or written questions asap on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or on voicemail at 424-246-6255 TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Modern Dating Challenges (00:00:00)   The Role of Love Coaching (00:01:06)   Johnny's Journey into Love Coaching (00:02:20)   Expectations in Modern Relationships (00:06:12)   The Impact of Choice on Satisfaction (00:10:16)   Effort Required in Today's Dating Landscape (00:12:16)   The Importance of Romantic Relationships (00:13:18)   Choosing Your Hard (00:15:04)   Introduction to Modern Dating (00:15:13)   The Rhetoric of Comparison (00:15:50)   Awareness of Desire (00:17:02)   Fundamentals of the 3D True Love Method (00:17:59)   The Paradox of Choice in Dating (00:19:57)   Societal Programming and Commitment (00:20:59)   The Importance of Distinction (00:22:29)   Focusing on Healthy Relationships (00:24:37)   Authenticity in Dating (00:27:07)   Quality vs. Quantity in Dating (00:29:28)   The Reality of Romance (30:25) Accepting What You Allow (31:16) Understanding Self-Sabotage (31:28) Love Breakthrough Live Overview (31:57) Breaking Through Self-Limiting Beliefs (32:21) Unpopular Opinion on Hustle Culture (34:19) The Importance of Emotional Connection (35:00) Closing Thoughts and Resources (35:56) Listener Question Introduction (36:45) Advice for a Listener (37:17) Navigating Grief and Relationships (39:59) The Importance of Mutual Interest (41:24) Empathy and Understanding in Dating (42:30) Possibility of Future Love (45:04) Closing Remarks (46:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    52 min
  2. FEB 18

    Romances & Practicalities

    Lindsay Jill Roth, award winning television producer, shares her new book, “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions”, how these questions and ultimately the communication they foster can determine the trajectory of a relationship. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Is it time for a talk? My man keeps updating his online profile. Get the book: “Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) In 250 Questions” and follow Lindsay on Instagram @LindsayJillRoth  Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Relationship Questions (00:00:00)   Host Introduction (00:00:13)   Lyndsey's Background (00:02:29)   Creating the System (00:03:51)   Importance of Communication (00:06:08)   Finding Comfort in Asking Questions (00:07:43)   Starting Points for Conversations (00:08:29)   Timing for Relationship Discussions (00:10:35)   Therapy Before Problems Arise (00:11:17)   International Romance Story (00:11:44)   Pivotal Moment in the Relationship (00:13:37)   Creating the System from Experience (00:15:09)   Vulnerability in Relationships (00:16:35)   The Challenge of Modern Dating (00:17:06)   Initial Connection Over Text (00:18:44)   The Disappointment of Zero Chemistry (00:19:20)   Researching a Potential Partner (00:20:04)   Deliberate Communication Choices (00:21:12)   Importance of Getting Offline (00:22:00)   Book Structure and Relationship Progression (00:23:06)   The Role of Money in Relationships (00:25:03)   Communication as a Foundation (00:27:12)   Understanding Conflict Styles (00:28:37)   Self-Discovery Through Relationships (00:31:20)   Future Aspirations and Relationship Impact (00:32:51)   The Importance of Structure in Relationships (34:05)   Defining Spirituality in Dating (34:41)   The Value of Self-Reflection (35:51)   Using Books as Relationship Tools (37:11)   Revisiting Conversations in Long-Term Relationships (38:05)   The Evolution of Relationship Conversations (39:00)   Permission to Not Have All the Answers (39:30)   Unpopular Opinions on Dating (41:10)   The Need for Open Communication (41:39)   Listener Question on Relationship Insecurities (43:21)   Navigating Undefined Relationship Spaces (46:05)   Taking the Initiative in Relationship Conversations (48:40)   Exploring Serious Relationships (00:50:59)   The Power of Vulnerability (00:52:07)   Episode Wrap-Up and Resources (00:52:15)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    59 min
  3. FEB 11

    Tinder Trivia & Getting Ghosted

    Devyn Simone, Tinder’s Resident Relationship Expert, joins Damona in celebration of Valentine’s Day to test Damona’s online dating knowledge in a Tinder Trivia showdown! Whether you’re feeling the love or dodging Cupid’s arrow this year, we’ve got something for you. Then in a special Dear Damona and Dear Devyn, our questions this week are: My matches want to skip getting to know each other and get straight to the date. How do I deal with this? I keep getting ghosted. Am I coming on too strong? You can find Tinder in the App Store or the Google Play Store, and you can find Devyn on Instagram @DevynSimone *This is NOT a sponsored episode* Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Welcome to Dates and Mates (00:00:06)   Introducing Devin Simone (00:02:05)   Catch-Up Between Friends (00:02:41)   Tinder Trivia Game Introduction (00:03:52)   The Evolution of Online Dating (00:04:54)   Importance of Hope in Dating (00:08:06)   First Trivia Question: Tinder's Activity Day (00:09:07)   Burnout in Dating (00:11:27)   Maximizing Dating App Time (00:12:21)   Momentum in Online Dating (00:14:14)   The Importance of Phone Calls (00:14:28)   Trivia Game Begins (00:15:26)   Benefits of Tinder's Passport Feature (00:16:34)   Changing Dating Parameters Post-COVID (00:17:05)   Misconceptions About Dating Options (00:20:49)   Investment in Dating Apps (00:23:44)   Study on Men's Perceptions of Women (00:24:18)   Reality of Men's Relationship Goals (00:27:08)   Understanding Individual Relationship Seriousness (00:28:33)   The Importance of Online Dating Opportunities (00:29:25)   Trivia Game Introduction (00:30:08)   Loud Looking Trend (00:31:14)   Shift in Dating Culture (00:32:11)   Self-Reflection in Dating (00:34:34)   Profile Photo Selection (00:39:31)   AI Photo Selector Tool (00:42:42)   Tinder Data Insights (00:43:24)   AI Tools for Profile Building (00:44:13)   Using Data for Dating Ease (00:45:07)   Support Beyond Profiles (00:45:42)   Confidence through Tools (00:46:11)   Quality of Relationships (00:46:59)   Listener Questions Introduction (00:47:38)   Handling Men on Dating Apps (00:48:43)   Importance of Pre-Screening (00:49:33)   Communication Methods (00:50:49)   Scheduled Mini-Dates (00:52:12)   Ghosting and Quality Connections (00:52:28)   Assessing Dating Patterns (00:53:25)   Self-Inquiry in Relationships (00:54:01)   Defining Quality in Partners (00:56:00)   Closing Remarks and Appreciation (00:56:54)   Closing Remarks and Thanks (00:57:25)   Valentine's Day Episode Mention (00:57:25)   Upcoming Guest Announcement (00:58:32)   Valentine's Day Wishes (00:58:32)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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    From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

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