121 episodes

Do you have a child, teen, or young adult who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or any other beautiful sexual orientation or gender identity? Do you feel alone in your effort to support them on their journey or navigate your own? Heather Hester from Chrysalis Mama is here to transform the conversation around loving, raising, and empowering an LGBTQIA+ teenager as well as being a supportive ally to all LGBTQIA+ people. Since 2017, when her son embraced his sexual orientation as a young gay man, Heather and her family have felt every emotion, and have experienced dozens of situations ranging from heartwarming and humorous to terrifyingly life-threatening. She and her husband initially felt alone and overwhelmed, moving her to want to support others traveling a similar path. She discusses taboo topics and works to erase stigmas surrounding the coming out process and parenting an LGBTQIA+ teen. Heather's shows are both interview and solo offering a wide range of fascinating guests as well as her own episodes where she shares wisdom, stories, and strategies. Sitting in the top 2% of all podcasts, Just Breathe is relatable, educational, and warm. Heather's approach is based on four pillars - to Embrace, Educate, Empower, and Love - and most of all, to reinforce to all LGBTQ people, their families, and their allies that they are not alone!

Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen Heather Hester

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.7 • 88 Ratings

Do you have a child, teen, or young adult who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or any other beautiful sexual orientation or gender identity? Do you feel alone in your effort to support them on their journey or navigate your own? Heather Hester from Chrysalis Mama is here to transform the conversation around loving, raising, and empowering an LGBTQIA+ teenager as well as being a supportive ally to all LGBTQIA+ people. Since 2017, when her son embraced his sexual orientation as a young gay man, Heather and her family have felt every emotion, and have experienced dozens of situations ranging from heartwarming and humorous to terrifyingly life-threatening. She and her husband initially felt alone and overwhelmed, moving her to want to support others traveling a similar path. She discusses taboo topics and works to erase stigmas surrounding the coming out process and parenting an LGBTQIA+ teen. Heather's shows are both interview and solo offering a wide range of fascinating guests as well as her own episodes where she shares wisdom, stories, and strategies. Sitting in the top 2% of all podcasts, Just Breathe is relatable, educational, and warm. Heather's approach is based on four pillars - to Embrace, Educate, Empower, and Love - and most of all, to reinforce to all LGBTQ people, their families, and their allies that they are not alone!

    Celebrating Diversity, Advocacy, and Hope in Leadership with Dean Nelson

    Celebrating Diversity, Advocacy, and Hope in Leadership with Dean Nelson

    Embark on an enlightening exploration with Dean Nelson, LGBTQ pioneer and Whistler Pride and Ski Festival founder, as we dissect the critical need for compassionate leadership. In our heartfelt conversation, we delve into the chilling rise of violence against transgender individuals and the stark polarization gripping America. We share stories close to the heart, underscoring the dire need for leaders who champion facts and embrace diversity, steering clear of the treacherous path of fear and discrimination.
    The essence of democracy and pride takes center stage in our narrative, emphasizing the potency of being politically savvy, starting at the grassroots level. Discover the profound influence you wield by understanding the human rights stance of your local representatives—a tribute to the power vested in your vote. Our personal tales of empowerment and the symbolic triumph of salvaging a community event further illustrate the monumental impact of civic engagement on both personal and communal plains.
    Finally, we celebrate the triumphs of inclusivity within the workplace, sharing inspiring accounts from notable figures like a trans engineer at Electronic Arts and Olympian Mark Tewksbury. These narratives not only emphasize the importance of self-expression but also underscore the life-changing support of allyship. As we close, we're left with a message of hope—a vision of leadership that forms a more inclusive and secure world for everyone.
    About Our Guest:
    Dean Nelson, a vibrant force in his community, has catalyzed change and championed inclusivity throughout his remarkable journey.
    In 2006, Nelson played a pivotal role in rescuing Whistler’s Gay Ski Week, igniting a passion for advocacy that led him to helm the annual festival, now known as the Whistler Ski & Pride Festival.
    In 2009, he co-founded the transformative Mr. Gay World (MGW) organization, merging sports, culture, and human rights to combat homophobia and nurture future leaders.
    A trailblazer, Nelson established the pioneering Olympic Pride House at the Vancouver/Whistler 2010 Olympic and Paralympic Winter Games, setting a precedent for diversity in sports.
    Continuing his legacy, Nelson advises the Pride House Advisory Group, shaping inclusive environments for global events such as the Olympic and Commonwealth Games.
    Educated in resort management and Japanese language and culture, Nelson's career spans esteemed roles in hospitality and tourism before founding Alpenglow Productions Corp, the driving force behind Whistler Pride and Ski Festival.
    His notable positions and contributions include directing Vancouver Pride, co-founding Mr. Gay Canada, and spearheading initiatives like the Vancouver North America Outgames Planning Committee.
    Nelson's dedication hasn't gone unnoticed, earning him accolades such as Pride Toronto’s Award of Excellence in Sports and the Thompson Rivers University Distinguished Alumni: Human Rights Leadership Award and an Honorary Doctorate of Laws.
    With unwavering commitment, Dean Nelson continues to inspire, leaving an indelible mark on the landscape of equality and inclusion.
    Social Media @GayWhistler @departuresXdean
    Connect with Heather:
    Get Your Ally Toolkit Now, including a free primer! https://toolkit.chrysalismama.com/ally-free-gift
    YouTube: @chrysalismama9499
    TikTok: @chrysalismama
    Learn how you can make an impact: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama
    Solutions listed on her website: a...

    • 51 min
    Cultivating Diversity and Empowerment in Children's Books with Michael Tyler

    Cultivating Diversity and Empowerment in Children's Books with Michael Tyler

    Prepare to be inspired as we sit down with the extraordinary Michael Tyler, the man behind the message of acceptance and self-love in the acclaimed "Girls of the World Doing More Than Ever Before." Michael, alongside his co-author Lindsay Davis, has crafted a book that not only soared to the New York Times bestseller list but also ignites a spark of empowerment within young readers, particularly girls. We unpack the essence of their collaboration, the creative process that led to their book's success, and how their work is sculpting the character of our future generation. Join us for a conversation brimming with heartfelt dedication to the power of purposeful children's literature and the promise it holds for a more inclusive world.
    Amidst a culture rife with labels and expectations, we open up about the journey to understanding and embracing LGBT identities. The discussion transcended into a broader reflection on the role of parents in breaking societal molds, nurturing their children's individuality, and fostering an environment where love is the bedrock of acceptance. This episode is a heartfelt testament to the unwavering bond between parent and child, and a reminder that our most profound duty is to nurture a world where every child can flourish, free from the constraints of labels and stereotypes.
    About our Guest:
    Michael Tyler is a writer, speaker, and author of The Skin You Live In and Mirror Face, children's books about acceptance and self-love. He advises educators on DEI and SEL curriculum, and has addressed forums for The Kin Centre, the Clinton Foundation, and Beyond Differences. He resides in Chicago.
    Learn more about Michael and his books at https://michaeltylerwrites.com/
    Connect with Heather:
    Get Your Ally Toolkit Now, including a free primer! https://toolkit.chrysalismama.com/ally-free-gift
    YouTube: @chrysalismama9499
    TikTok: @chrysalismama
    Learn how you can make an impact: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama
    Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com/solutions
    Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Pre-order Parenting with Pride Now: https://chrysalismama.com/book
    Get your Free "Pronouns Made Simple" download now: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/optin

    • 31 min
    Navigating the Digital Maze for LGBTQ+ Parental Guidance

    Navigating the Digital Maze for LGBTQ+ Parental Guidance

    Have you ever felt adrift in the murky waters of the internet, trying to fish out the facts you truly need? Today's episode is a beacon for LGBTQ+ parents seeking guidance in distinguishing the credible from the questionable online. Today we plunge into the methods of verifying author expertise and publisher reputation, emphasizing the difference it makes to lean on peer-reviewed resources. Our conversation goes further than just picking out the good from the bad; it's about strengthening the very foundations of your knowledge with tools that ensure what you're learning is rooted in verified truth.
    As we navigate this digital landscape together, we lay out a map of strategies to keep you on the path of objective and accurate information. We discuss the nuances of sifting through content, from performing reverse image searches to discerning the intent behind the words you read. It's a masterclass in critical thinking and self-awareness, aimed at debunking biases and promoting a balanced understanding of the issues close to your heart and your LGBTQ teen's experience. Embrace a balanced, informed approach to content consumption, and join us on this journey toward becoming a savvier, more critical thinker in the digital age.
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Get your Free "Pronouns Made Simple" download now: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/optin
    Pre-order Parenting with Pride Now: https://chrysalismama.com/book

    • 29 min
    Unconditional Love and the Voyage Beyond Gender Norms with shawndeez, Ph.D.

    Unconditional Love and the Voyage Beyond Gender Norms with shawndeez, Ph.D.

    Discover the power of love and acceptance as I am joined by the insightful shawndeez, Ph.D., to explore the journey of parenting LGBTQ children. Through our conversation, we unearth the intricacies of identity, acceptance, and the transformative self-discovery that not only reshapes the lives of LGBTQ individuals but also their loved ones. Hear the touching stories that cut across the fabric of spirituality, gender, and the path toward embracing one's true self, offering a glimmer of hope and guidance for those supporting queer and trans family members.
    The episode traverses the emotional landscape that parents navigate as their children reveal their gender identities, delving into the delicate balance of protecting and accepting, and the profound realization that unconditional love can deepen through understanding and awareness. We discuss the importance of patience, education, and dialogue in fostering a family environment where differences unite rather than divide. With shawndeez's personal narratives serving as a backdrop, the discussion highlights the healing potential of open-hearted acceptance within the family dynamic.
    Listen as we contemplate the societal impacts of gender fluidity, and how fostering joy within the lives of trans individuals can lead to a culture of thriving. Whether you're a parent, a friend, or simply someone seeking understanding, this episode is a beacon of hope and guidance in the quest for a more inclusive world.
    About our Guest:
    shawndeez, Ph.D. (they/them) received their doctorate in UCLA’s Department of Gender Studies. While at UCLA, they created and led courses on Trans Magic, Queer & Trans Muslim Feminisms, and QTPoC Resistances while simultaneously serving on the Trans Wellness Team, a collective of medical doctors and mental health providers working to provide gender-affirming healthcare to trans students across the UC system. shawndeez’s dissertation research explored how queer, trans, and nonbinary individuals engage with the spiritual as a form of resilience, healing, and possibility. They are now a full-time public speaker, spiritual guide, and workshop facilitator, offering spiritually-conscious spaces for queer/trans people to lean into their joys. 
    shawndeez is currently most excited for their newest adventure – offering one-on-one support for parents and elders of trans and gender non-conforming people who seek guidance in reimagining their relationship with their child. If you are interested in learning more, please visit their website shawndeez.com.
    SOCIALS: 
    ig - @drshawndeez
    website: https://www.shawndeez.com/
    the specific page for parent support work: https://www.shawndeez.com/work/parents
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shawndeez/
    email address: shawndeez@ucla.edu 
    Connect with Heather:
    Get Your Ally Toolkit Now, including a free primer! https://toolkit.chrysalismama.com/ally-free-gift
    YouTube: @chrysalismama9499
    TikTok: a...

    • 1 hr 4 min
    The Art of Communicating Love: What is Your Love Language?

    The Art of Communicating Love: What is Your Love Language?

    Join me as we explore the rich tapestry of love languages and how they shape our connections with those we hold dear, particularly when parenting LGBTQ teens.
    In this heartfelt conversation, we unravel the intricacies of Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages, urging you to reflect on how you and your loved ones express and cherish love. I share personal insights and invite you to consider how love manifests in your body, whether it's through a warm embrace or a grounding presence. With Valentine's Day just around the corner, we offer up thoughtful ways to foster meaningful bonds with your children, partners, and friends, ensuring that everyone's unique expression of love is understood and celebrated.
    To become part of the Book Launch Team please visit: https://launch.chrysalismama.com/book-launch-team or drop me an email at hh@chyrsalismama.com
    Connect with Heather:
    Get Your Ally Toolkit Now, including a free primer! https://toolkit.chrysalismama.com/ally-free-gift
    YouTube: @chrysalismama9499
    TikTok: @chrysalismama
    Learn how you can make an impact: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama
    Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com/solutions
    Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Get your Free "Pronouns Made Simple" download now: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/optin
    Pre-order Parenting with Pride Now: https://chrysalismama.com/book

    • 15 min
    Parenting with Pride

    Parenting with Pride

    This episode is a celebration of our shared path, offering a compassionate embrace to every parent and guardian out there walking this road. Looking back at where we started and where we are now, we have peeled back the core truths of nurturing our LGBTQ+ loved ones, sharing stories that resonate with authenticity, and equipping ourselves with the tools needed to uplift and empower these incredible teens.
    I am also very excited to announce the upcoming release of my first book, "Parenting With Pride: Unlearn Bias To Embrace, Empower, and Love Your LGBTQ+ Teen". It's a milestone for me, as I have learned so much about myself in the writing process and could not have done it without the knowledge and support that I received from this podcast. Our quest is about so much more than mere acceptance—it's about celebrating the vibrant spectrum of love and identity.
    To become part of the Book Launch Team please visit: https://launch.chrysalismama.com/book-launch-team or drop me an email at hh@chyrsalismama.com
    Connect with Heather:
    Get Your Ally Toolkit Now, including a free primer! https://toolkit.chrysalismama.com/ally-free-gift
    YouTube: @chrysalismama9499
    TikTok: @chrysalismama
    Learn how you can make an impact: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama
    Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com/solutions
    Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone!
    Mentioned in this episode:
    Get your Free "Pronouns Made Simple" download now: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/optin
    Pre-order Parenting with Pride Now: https://chrysalismama.com/book

    • 12 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
88 Ratings

88 Ratings

ToddaVee ,

Thank you

From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for this podcast. I’ve only listened to a couple of episodes, and I’ve learned so much already. ❤️

Laurenkenna ,

Grateful

So grateful for this beautiful podcast which supports parents who often feel alone in navigating a different life for their kids than what was imagined. As a therapist who works with children and teens I am appreciative of this wonderful resource. And I am often sharing it with the parents I work with.

living with fire ,

Thoughtful and practical

This is an informative parenting podcast. I recommend all parents and adults in the lives of queer youth listen. Balanced, practical and helpful as well as inspriring.

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