Live IFS Internal Family Systems Sessions

🔸 What are the consequences of being vulnerable? Of trusting men? An experiment.

🔹 Parts:


Ps: Put it all out there v. hold back
E: 14 responsible, get a job, romantic partners
E: love and acceptance from male role models

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Do differently: prepare better for midday calls, I'm often a little slow out of the gate. Grateful for Christine's leadership, which refocused the session multiple times.

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🔸 Doing it wrong and the real fear chat with James.

🔹 Parts:


P: Judgement about watching tv, should be more noble and spiritual. Puts a bow on it, labeling it. Too much content. Stuff going on at 3 is a boring old story. Frustrated others can’t read my mind. Where do i fit in? (Same burden as exiles)
P: “You’re not real and you don’t belong” (same as above?)
P: fear of above, of it taking over. Just needs the physical needs met, tuck in at night.
E: 7 yo protected by p1
E: 5 yo unseen

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Day 4 of deep relaxation, a personal vacation, have been doing lots of my own parts work. I'd like to do more to maintain continuity; "doing it wrong" gives us these glimpses, and when they're share with me (not Justine-Self), I should take more responsibility for following up.

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🔸 Overwhelmed puzzler, a problem I'm not in the middle of.

🔹 Parts:


Walking in a pool of grief
Crying when thinking about being held
The clouds, don’t know, not sure, can’t place things, feel lost
Overwhelmed, about parts, work, about life. You don’t understand how complex that is.
Sad about the overwhelmed
Puzzler Figure it out
Pusher

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I can’t explain every decision made in targeting. We can move quickly, I want to keep looking out for it being too quick.

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🔸 Family loss. She needed there to be more of a network

🔹 Parts:


P: minimizer. This is fine now, nothing to see here. Family image protector. Never look back. Doesn’t want a bunch of whining, it’s weak to be bothered by things that aren’t horrible. “Self like” is not gonna get the job done
E: kid from whom something was taken. There weren’t other adults. I want my auntie. Too much focus on her. Nobody explained.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Once I was certain about Theresa’s connection w exile, I relaxed and let some other of my parts (who love talking shop w T) step in. Maybe not ideal. But definitely better than starting a session that way.

As for the concept of "inviting the Self of someone else’s parts", it's never felt right to me. If someone was not good to me, who am I serving by imagining they were? Self can do anything for its parts; “I am here, I can go to where you are, and here’s how I would help” builds trust and heals, in the present. Or Self can "see that these were parts of [other person], and have compassion for their system”, in the present. But I think "imagine he was good to you" risks invalidating a part's experience.

Responding to “she needed those relationships not to end” I could have reiterated, "what did she need from someone (you), given those relationships were ending."



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🔸 Hot date heartache. Making it safe to want.

🔹 Parts:


P: the deep well. Feeling left out, parts that are hurt. i’m not acceptable, there’s something wrong with me, im ugly, old, unlovable. longing to be loved and recognized but asking for it will bring ridicule
P: scared, hopeless, it will swallow me up. The want is too big. 
P: judge. who do you think you are, you want too much. Judging the anger of:
E: (same as first?) angry 2 year old hitting her sister. felt robbed, little sister sucked up all the oxygen. Needs told she’s adorable and lovable and amazing! Wants to be held and also let go. I have to be angry cuz if not, I will die. Cut the cords to the surveillance apparatus.
P: angry, being punished by God
E: 6-7 yo experience the loss. angry. Everything I do is wrong! Am I really this monster? Shunted away

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Faster targeting. I know I sound off, a little short. Not feeling tip-top today. And parts increasingly frustrated w my yielding to story-telling. Maybe we should start charging by the hour. Joke. But I imagine the constraint of a 1-hour time limit used by most professionals has its upsides. “Yes you could tell me a story… and now we have 48 minutes to do the work…” I'm not complaining from a “waste my time” part, that’s not it. More like “I could serve better if I had some policy here”.

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🔸 The one who won't use her voice



🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Something. Not sure.

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