Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

Courtney Kocak
Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

  1. 2D AGO

    Fingering, Fisting, Cunnilingus & Casual Sex: A Hands-On Guide to Pleasure with Allison Moon

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 202nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Allison Moon, sex educator and author of "Girl Sex 101" and "Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex." Allison helps you master the art of pleasuring vulva owners with simple yet effective hand and oral sex techniques. We explore the importance of communication, understanding anatomy, and tuning into your partner’s body language and reactions. We also dive into the topic of fisting—offering beginner-friendly tips and debunking common misconceptions. Plus, Allison shares advice on dating and sleeping around without being a (non-gendered) dick about it. Consider this your no-nonsense guide to great sex and embracing your ethical slut era—while keeping everything above board with your partner(s). For more from today's guest, Allison Moon: Order Getting It from Bookshop.org Order Girl Sex 101 from Bookshop.org Check out Allison's website alliedmoon.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Feeld: The dating app for open-minded individuals. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for meour Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    32 min
  2. MAR 26

    From Child-Free to Wanting a Kid: Laura Yuen Interviews Me About Rethinking Motherhood

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 201st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak takes the hot seat in an interview with Star Tribune columnist Laura Yuen. Courtney opens up about her journey from identifying as child-free to seriously considering motherhood—what changed, why her parents play a pivotal role in her decision, and how the ticking clock of fertility has reshaped her thinking. This candid conversation explores career ambition, fence-sitting, the modern-day analysis paralysis that comes with having so many choices, and the evolving cultural dialogue around being child-free. For more: Read Laura's column: She’s having kids so her parents can have grandkids Read Courtney's essay: I'm 41, and I thought I'd always be child-free. I decided to have kids so my parents could be grandparents. Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Feeld: The dating app for open-minded individuals. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for meour Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    38 min
  3. MAR 19

    Big LOLs (Love, Orgasms & Laughs): Celebrating 200 Episodes with a Standup Extravaganza!

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 200th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak does something a little bit different... To celebrate 200 episodes of Private Parts Unknown, I’m sharing something special—my stand-up comedy! This milestone episode features audio from two of my recent stand-up sets at the Ice House in Pasadena. Expect plenty of laughs, some spicy material, and my signature feminist take on sex, relationships, and a bunch of other stuff. Whether you’ve been here since the Reality Bytes days or just found the show, I’m so grateful for you, Privates! Let's celebrate with some LOLs! Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Feeld: The dating app for open-minded individuals. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign me up for the Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    29 min
  4. MAR 12

    From Monogamous to Monogamish: Amy Baldwin on Navigating Non-Monogamy & Shameless Sex

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 199th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Amy Baldwin, co-host of the Shameless Sex podcast, to discuss her non-monogamy journey. This is Amy’s third time on the show, and today she’s back to share how she opened up her relationship from monogamous to “monogamish” and how that’s led to exploring sex parties with her partner and Feeld, the trusty dating app for all types of non-monogamy and kink. Eventually, they transitioned to solo non-monogamy, and now she and her primary partner have other casual partners, too. Amy approaches this in a really intentional, honest way that I greatly admire, and she shares some super smart tips about how to dip your toe in the sea of open relationships if you’re so inclined. For more Amy Baldwin: Order your copy of the book she wrote with April Lampert Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You've Been Waiting for Listen to the Shameless Sex podcast shamelesssex.com Follow the show on Instagram @shamelesssexpodcast Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Feeld: The dating app for open-minded individuals. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for meour Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    25 min
  5. MAR 5

    The Lusty Lady as a Case Study for Sex Worker Social Movements with Historian & Former Lusty Jayne Swift

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 198th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes historian and former Lusty Jayne Swift. Swift specializes in the history of sexuality, gender, and labor in the U.S., and she’s writing a book about the history of sex worker social movements in which the Lusty Lady features prominently. A couple of years ago, I covered Star Garden, a strip club in North Hollywood, which unionized through SAG-AFTRA. But there’s a classic example of stripper unionization that’s THE case study often pointed to: Strippers at San Francisco’s Lusty Lady organized into the Exotic Dancers Union in 1996. The Exotic Dancers Union was affiliated with the Service Employees International Union. Eventually, the strippers bought the club and ran it as a worker-owned co-op until The Lusty Lady closed in 2013.  This episode dives into Jayne’s research on sex worker social movements and how sex workers are responsible for the rise of sex positivity and sex-positive politics/feminism. For more from today's guest, Jayne Swift: Check out Jayne's website drjayneswift.com Follow Jayne Swift on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/jayne-swift-8439ba126 Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Feeld: The dating app for open-minded individuals. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for meour Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    34 min
  6. FEB 26

    Monique El-Faizy Explains France’s Gisèle Pelicot Case: A Shocking Rape Conspiracy & the Ringleader Was Her Husband

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 197th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Paris-based journalist Monique El-Faizy to unpack France's Gisèle Pelicot case. This French legal battle, which culminated in a landmark December verdict, exposed a horrifying conspiracy to rape involving dozens of men—led by Pelicot’s own husband. To break it all down, I’m joined by Monique El-Faizy, who has been closely following the case and is writing a book about it. We discuss the disturbing details, Pelicot’s incredible bravery in waiving her anonymity and making the case public, and what this case reveals about the insidious nature of misogyny and the banality of sexual assault. We also talk about the parallels in Monique's previous book, All the President's Women: Donald Trump and the Making of a Predator. But don’t worry—we end on a lighter note, with Monique sharing her experiences with dating and non-monogamy in Paris in her 50s. Read my HuffPost Personal essay inspired by the case here. For more from today's guest, Monique El-Faizy: Buy Monique's book All the President's Women: Donald Trump and the Making of a Predator Subscribe to Monique Substack midlifeinparis.substack.com/welcome Follow Monique on Instagram @moniqueelfaizy Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for meour Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    1h 1m
  7. FEB 19

    Mae Planert’s Mom Era: A Candid Look at Pregnancy, Childbirth & Early Motherhood From Three Weeks Postpartum!

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 196th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes comedian, podcaster, and new mom Mae Planert. I spoke with Mae Planert at three weeks postpartum, in the infancy of her Mom Era. She opens up about her scheduled C-section and the challenges of breastfeeding. Mae also shares how having Baby Normand is impacting her relationship with her husband, Mark Normand, and her standup comedy. From pregnancy to postpartum recovery to finding fresh material in motherhood, this conversation is a candid look at the realities of being a new mom—and it's not as scary as you might think! For more from today's guest, Mae Planert: Watch Mae's standup special, "...Who is She?" Listen to Mae's podcast, Risque Business News Follow Mae on Instagram @mae_planert Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for meour Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    45 min
  8. FEB 12

    Lessons in Fatherhood: Michael Jamin on Masculinity, Mistakes & the Power of Parental Love

    Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. For the 195th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes TV writer and A Paper Orchestra author Michael Jamin. Michael Jamin discusses his journey to fatherhood and the lessons he has learned. Michael also shares his perspective on masculinity and a heart-wrenching story about the profound love and sacrifice parents have for their kids. For more from today's guest, Michael Jamin: Buy Michael's book A Paper Orchestra Subscribe to Michael's Substack michaeljamin.substack.com/welcome Follow Michael on Instagram @michaeljaminwriter Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to lovehoney.com and enter code AFF-PRIVATE at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private  Psst... sign up for meour Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.com Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    12 min

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Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com. 

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